It's my sister's birthday today, so I wanted to create a post to pay tribute to her. She was one of those feisty women who could never be pinned down by the hum drum ways of adulthood. Becky was a friend until she could no longer be a friend to anyone. I was fortunate enough to spend a lot of time with her before she became an addict. She lived out loud and was courageous. She never backed down from a challenge in life. Becky was a single mother and faced a lot of struggles alone. I will always remember singing with her at the top of our lungs on the patio of a local bar, and even though the sky felt like it was falling she gave me a place in her life to dream that someday things would be different for me. I've come a long way in life, and I only wish that Becky could see me now.
Five Memories of My Sister, Becky Shaeffer
1. That time when we were kids and our family went to Walt Disney World. She had carried around a plastic statue of Mickey Mouse all day and then we were standing by a lake. "Mickey in the Water!" she cried just after she threw the statue in the water. She was such a cute kid! As a young child she could spot the Golden Arches of McDonald's from miles away, and she was spoiled rotten. Becky was the youngest of four daughters and she pretty much always got her way.
2. Becky's first job was at B-Bops. She wound up working at just about every restaurant in Des Moines at one point or another. I used to visit her at different restaurants and she was always glad to see a friendly face.
3. Becky was a charmer! She had a way about her that was magnetic and she seemed to make friends and enemies everywhere she went. Becky was loud and in charge and didn't take shit from anybody. She just seemed to have the kind of power to make her every dream come true in life. I always believed in her...that she would find a way to get free from addiction and turn over a new leaf in life.
4. When Becky gave birth to her daughter, my husband and I drove 45 minutes to be at the hospital. We wanted to be there on that monumental day, and I will never forget it! Some of her friends were at the hospital and it was just nice that people were there to support her. She was a young mother but she had a circle of people around her that truly cared.
5. That time that my husband and I drove to help her pay her rent. She was living in a small town in Southern Iowa. That was the only time I have ever seen the Northern Lights. When Jason and I were on our way home, the sky was filled with ribbons of white and green. It was so breathtaking, I will never forget it.
Looking back there are a lot of good memories and bad memories too. Life is bittersweet, but I will always remember Becky! She made an impression on me in so many ways and I think about her every single day. I miss you Becky!